Til this day, I don’t know why he did it. But I remember him cornering me in a room and hitting me with this vacuum cleaner cord. He would just not stop. There are all these welts on me, the flesh that’s coming from my bone, and I had to wait for him to go to sleep. When he fell asleep, I ran to my aunt’s house, and she was mortified when she saw it.
Tyler says his mother was also beaten by his father. He says he did not talk about the abuse while his mother was alive because he felt she suffered enough.
“She suffered so much horror in her life—surviving breast cancer, the abuse from my father, the belittling, the beatings. And I just could not be a source of pain. I knew if I spoke about this, that she would be hurt. So I didn’t. I feel this tremendous sense of now it’s time for me to take care of me and get some of this stuff out of me and be free from it."
Tyler Perry also revealed that he was 6 the first time he was molested by a neighbor. They were building a birdhouse together when the man put his hands down his pants.
“I’m thinking, ‘What is this?’And I felt my body betraying me, because I felt an erection at that age.”
After that Tyler was molested by a male nurse and a man he knew from church.
“The man from church used God and the Bible against me to justify a lot of the things that were going on. It was so horrible, and that was my first sexual experience, with this man performing oral sex on me as a boy.”
When Tyler was 10 years old, he says he was molested again by a friend’s mother. The woman put her son in the bathroom to take a bath and when Tyler was about to leave, she appeared in front of him wearing lingerie. She locked the door and when he tried to leave she said:
“You want to go home? Here’s the key? I come over to get it, and she puts it inside of herself and she tells me to get it. So, I get the key, but I feel my body betraying me again because I felt an erection."
The woman pulled him on top of her and Tyler had his first sexual experience at the age of 10.
Tyler tells Oprah that the molestations left him confused sexually.
Til this day, Tyler has to deal with the aftermath of being molested and it has even affected his relationships. He recalls a time that he was unable to perform because a woman locked the door before they became intimate and he had flashbacks of his friend’s mother. Another time, a woman he was in love with walked in wearing lingerie and it triggered the day he was molested again.
During the show, Tyler admitted that he has forgiven his father but he doesn’t want him to be a part of his life. After his father heard him talk about the abuse, he sent a message to Tyler that said:
“If I had beat your ass one more time, you probably would have been Barack Obama.”
This is sad, but not shocking. Many times the plays, movies, and even songs that are written have some kind of truth behind them.Tyler I'll pray for your strength, but you have to face this... HEAD ON. Thats the only way you're going to get through it completely. You've cried a river, Now build a bridge and start getting over it. Everything happens for a reason. You speak so much about people facing their issues with God's unchanging hand, but what about YOU? Start taking care of YOU Tyler.
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